Recall a moment in your life when you asked for someone’s forgiveness, but they refused to free you of the offense. Do you remember feeling offended, hurt, frustrated, and much worse, REJECTED? Around that time, did you always feel like everyone was watching you and trying to target that specific area of your life that seemed irreconcilable? Perhaps it even made you paranoid! It was almost like people were waiting for you to commit the offense all over again because everything about you reminded them of what happened back in the day. You just couldn’t seem to move beyond your sour moment! It’s almost like everything you put your hands to after that time was hindered by where you failed! YOU WERE AFRAID TO OFFEND AGAIN! This is all condemnation. Here is the real deal! God forgave all of us to remove the trauma of rejection. Yes! Rejection can be traumatic, depending on where it comes from and how it targets our lives. Unforgiveness says, “I REJECT YOU COMPLETELY, and nothing that comes from you after this point is worthy of my acceptance. You have been discredited, and now it is too late!”
We should be joyous that God is not like us. Why? Because unforgiveness is a ruthless spirit! If I know anything worse than a machete, it is the cruel arsenal of UNFORGIVENESS! Whether or not we like to admit it, our unforgiving, unrelenting, and broken hearts carry a hidden resolve of what we feel should happen to a person. We want to be the one who gives the final verdict! I believe no one is exempt when I say we’ve held our offenders captive to our own depraved desires instead of God’s will. This is called a spirit of domination and control. We want our offender to suffer, whether it be withholding love and affection from the person, giving them the cold shoulder, or just flat out telling them, “I HOPE YOU SUFFER!”:-) We love to hold people in contempt because inwardly we are crying out for vindication. If we can control that person and their outcome then we feel soothed, satisfied, and above all things POWERFUL! Yes, we all want the power!… but in essence, unforgiveness carries the hidden motives of witchcraft as it projects ones desired imprisonment upon the offender. It negates the compassion that we should have for others. If it wasn’t for spiritual amnesia, many of us would quickly recall our past struggles when we were being held captive to lust, pornography, greed, lying, cheating, and drinking. You name it! We were doing it!
Matthew chapter 18 talks about the merciless servant who was forgiven by his lord but then arrogantly refused to forgive someone who was indebted to him. The servant became displeasing to his lord because he did not bestow mercy upon his own servants. Can you just imagine having to forgive someone who took all your money, stole your car, and then eventually brought ruin to your entire home. We laugh at our response behind the travesty, but the truth still speaks: “WE MUST FORGIVE THEM!” We do this religious thing as well —judging another mans sin as being greater than our own. According to Acts 10:34″……God is not a respecter of persons” -AND- Romans 6:23 “For the wages of sin is death…….”. The expense of Christ’s death was too awesome of a price for us to continually hold one another in contempt.
“Oh, I forgive, but I will never forget what you did to me,” only says that I want to hold on to your sin so that I can use it against you at the opportune time. I can use it as POWER to control you. Isn’t that something? Does not the devil use the habits of our sin nature to control us???? “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?…” (Jeremiah 17:9). God forgives and He forgets from the moment He throws our sins into the sea of forgetfulness. If God can humble himself and forgive us for His Sons sake, then who are we not to forgive? Are we greater than God? The lustful desire to maintain control will separate you from the protection of a loving God. “But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins have hid his face from you, that he will not hear” (Isaiah 59:2). Iniquities are the hidden sins of the heart that manifests outwardly. For one that is bitter and unforgiving, like in Isaiah 59:2, your iniquities have separated you from God, and as a result, you are subject to the oppression of tormenting spirits.
Matthew 18:34-35 says:
“34 And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.35 So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.”
It is time for us to be released from our prisons of embitterment! Let us pay off that unforgiving debt by making a love transaction to Jesus Christ. If you forward the offense, burden, emotional affliction, as well as the offender into the hands of Jesus, all things will be made fruitful for you! The offender might even be convicted by the Holy Ghost into a humbled place of repentance and radical deliverance. Let Jesus bring Kingdom resolve as He is the God of justice and vindication.
HEU: “Harboring unforgiveness says that I am not worthy to receive what’s on the other side of this offense. Let It Go! God has so much in store for you!”
Supporting Scriptures (KJV)
Ephesians 4:32– And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Mark 11:25- And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
Matthew 6:15 – But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Psalm 103:10 – He hath not dealt with us after our sins; nor rewarded is according to our iniquities.
Isaiah 1:18 -Come now, let us reason together, says the LORD: though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall become like wool.
Luke 7:47-48 “…Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven—for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.” And he said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.” (Jesus speaking to the accusers and the woman caught in adultery)